You CAN overcome the jealousy, get your life back and enjoy the healthy relationships you deserve…And it’s easier than you think!
How do we know this?
We’re Susie and Otto Collins and in the early days of our relationship–long before we were Breakthrough Relationship Coaches–we had our own struggles with jealousy.
We’ve been there, maybe exactly where you are right now.
In fact, things got so bad, we didn’t think our relationship would survive. It tore us apart– made us question ourselves, we felt unloved and it caused a great deal of unnecessary turmoil.
We don’t know how jealousy comes up for you in your relationship or marriage– but in our particular situation jealousy came at the worst possible moments…
We would be out at a restaurant, a social gathering, a party or a get-together at a friend’s house and Susie would see Otto talking to someone else–especially another beautiful woman–and her whole body would start to tense up, her heart would start beating faster (and not in a good way), her mind would start racing and then she’d start seeing and imagining the worst possible scenarios in her mind.
It wasn’t that Susie didn’t trust Otto.
It’s just that these jealous thoughts were like scenes from a bad movie that she couldn’t get out of her mind and the worst part is that they would seemingly come out of nowhere and just “blind” her to the point that this was all she could think about and focus on.
Her jealous thoughts were enough to drive any sane person crazy.
When these thoughts would come up, she would start saying things to herself like… “He’s going to leave me for someone else–someone younger, more beautiful, more fun, sexier, more outgoing, more ‘spiritual’.”
You name it and she thought it– and as we just said a moment ago–it very well could have totally ruined our love and relationship.
Jealousy was so intense that neither one of us could really be who we were and this was awful.
He didn’t feel like he could talk to as many people as he would like in social situations out of fear of how Susie might react.
Because of the tension that the jealousy created for the two of us, we also weren’t nearly as connected as we would have liked and our intimacy suffered.
Communication was strained, we both felt like we were always walking on eggshells and there was even an underlying tension when we had sex (after all, it’s hard to have deep connected, passionate sex with someone who is always accusing you of doing something that you’re NOT doing.)
We could have split over this but the good news is, we didn’t…
We discovered the exact steps to take to save our relationship and remove the JEALOUSY out of our lives forever. And you can too!
Now, at parties, get-togethers with friends or social gatherings, Otto is the one coming to find Susie — wanting to be with her, and she’s able to have a perfectly fine time NOT watching what he’s doing or keeping tabs on him.
As Otto says–“This makes ME want to seek her out and be with her more than anyone at any party we are at… totally changing our dynamic at social gatherings completely.”
We’re two people (like you) who’ve lived through this. We struggled with the apprehension, heart-break and uncertainty in our relationship.
But you know what?
Our relationship used to be filled with jealousy and now we have a close, connected and incredibly passionate relationship that we wouldn’t trade for anything.