The root cause of your social anxiety is that you subconsciously anticipate pain when you are in a social situation.
This happens because you experienced negative social experiences in your past that caused you to feel deep emotional pain.
And our brain isn’t very good at making the difference between PHYSICAL pain and EMOTIONAL pain…
All that it see’s is that what those negative social experiences hurt you tremendously…
But counter to what most people think, these negative social experiences only STARTED the problem… something else is keeping your social anxiety alive.
Most “experts” on this subject will tell you that your past experiences are the sole reason why you have social anxiety today, but that’s only half of the story.
The main reason why you have social anxiety today is because of one thing and one thing only: Control Behaviours!
And once you understand control behaviors, everything starts to make sense.
Let me ask you a couple of questions:
1. Did you ever make up a fake excuse to avoid doing something social?
2. Do you sometimes take a different route to get to your destination because the fastest one might make you bump into someone you know or is more crowded?
3. Do you sometimes not answer the phone when it’s ringing because you feel anxious talking on the phone?
4. Do you stay inside all day because it’s more comfortable even though you would like to get out?
5. Do you avoid public places?
6. Do sometimes get to a store, see that there is a lot of people and decide to turn back because it was too crowded?
7. Do you avoid talking as much as possible out of fear of saying something stupid? Or better yet, talk TOO MUCH because you don’t want people to think you are shy and anxious?
8. At work or at school, do you have lunch on your own to avoid having to sit with people and talk?
9. When walking down the street and see a group of people coming your way, do you cross the street in order to avoid them?
10. Did you ever pretend to be on the phone with someone in order to avoid talking to people?
These are just a few examples of what control behaviors are…
I could continue listing some for ages but the important thing to understand is this:
Control behaviors make us feel good in the short term, but make our social anxiety worse in the long term.
You see, when you successfully avoid feeling social anxiety, your brain thinks that the control behavior saved you from experiencing another negative social event and this only makes you feel MORE social anxiety next time you are faced with the same social situation.
What if I told you I found a way to completely AND PERMANENTLY demolish social anxiety simply by changing a few of your actions. And what if I told you that you could do this by taking EXTREMELY small steps without ever feeling overwhelmed.
My program takes you by the hand and shows you EXACTLY how to do just that!